We talked for a long time about this, and I'm inclined to agree. In fact, I suggested in many ways attracting women is a rich getting richer, and the poor getting poorer scenario. Many men, I'm guilty, find confidence when they attract a woman. That confidence can attract more women, which attracts more women, until, theoretically, 3 billion women are knocking on your door. A prime case of the rich in confidence getting richer.
However, those who languish without a lady are beaten down, and lose confidence. This which repels more women, which repels even more women, until, theoretically, 3 billion women banish you to the Galapagos Islands. The poor in confidence become poorer.
Now, here's an interesting observation, which'll (which will) provide a social confidence rollercoaster! When'I'g't (when I go out), I appear disinterested in women. I make jokes, and listen, but ask for a number or offer a "we should hang out again!"? No. Never. Primarily, because of my gripping deepdownpeopledespisemephobia.
Now, here's the interesting bit o' opinion: another friend once suggested, "Paul [all my friends seem to begin conversations with my name], the reason you get so many women [his words, not mine] is you don't act like you need the women." Ha! Truth is, that disinterest is really a lack of social confidence. So, being disinterested, women approach, and you'd think a bevy of beauties would raise my confidence, and it does....for a bit. My self confidence then sinks.....and then rises...and then sinks. I've included a graph:

It's quite peculiar. My history reads like a Charlie Brown t-shirt.
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